The Healing Power of Sex

by Dirty Filthy Princess

   It was nobody's fault.

   Between house hunting, working different shifts, deadline pressure at work, and one or other of us getting sick, there just hadn't been any time for sex in the last five days.

   Apparently, that's my limit. I'd started feeling weird the night before. I kept asking my husband if there was something wrong. He said no, and even though there really wasn't any concrete reason for my concern, I still felt funny. I was inventing symptoms to a problem that wasn't there.

   "I feel like there's a barrier between us," I said.

   It wasn't until later that I realized that I'd felt that way before. Though rare, it had happened when we hadn't had sex for several days.

   Apparently, I just need that physical connection to feel OK. Without it, I start to get clingy and I invent problems that aren't there.

   Fortunately, we both had a couple days off to reconnect. We woke up the next morning with the whole day stretching ahead of us. There was plenty of time to cuddle, talk, and relax in front of the TV. But more importantly, there was plenty of time to have some crazy sex.

   We enjoyed some much-needed lazy time in the bed, taking our time waking up. Then we stumbled out to the couch for some more laziness. Still no sex yet, but I was enjoying the day knowing it was coming.

   Then his brother called.

   My husband put the phone down to consult me. "Honey, Jason is wondering if we can meet him and his girlfriend and go out for a movie."

   My first thought was for the sex. I didn't want to wait until after returning from the movie. It's a long drive, and I knew we'd be tired after a long day. What if we were so tired that the sex got pushed off until tomorrow?

   I started to cry.

   Still, knowing that we'd have fun going to a movie and that my husband doesn't get to see his brother very often, I nodded my head through my tears.

   "Sure, yeah, we can go to a movie," I quivered.

   My husband was understandably confused and concerned. When he asked why I was crying, I told him that I really wanted to have sex before we went to the movie. He assured me that we could, and then he lifted the phone again and made plans to meet up at the theater.

   When my husband got off the phone, we talked a bit more about what had happened. I explained how, though I wasn't blaming anyone, the lack of sex had started to make me a little crazy. We talked a bit more. That's when he suggested that perhaps we'd have more time for sex after returning from the movie.

   I erupted into a torrent of tears again. Somehow, the thought of waiting one more instant than was absolutely necessary just got me unhinged.

   Once I was properly calmed down and comforted, my husband and I did have some wonderful sex. It was healing. It renewed that feeling of connection I have with my husband, and it relaxed and comforted me.

   Afterward, we threw on clothes and went to meet his brother. We made it just barely in time for the movie, and certainly far later than his brother expected we would arrive. But it was totally worth it. I spent the night relaxed and happy, confident in the love my husband has for me. I wasn't thinking about rushing home to get what I needed, and I wasn't resenting the time my husband was spending with his brother. I wasn't touchy or busy seeing problems that didn't exist.

   It was like taking medication.

   Hopefully, next time I start to feel an invisible "barrier" between us I'll realize what the problem is before I end up crying uncontrollably. My husband and I have a wonderful sex life. I feel very lucky to have such a wonderful, caring, generous man in my life. But, like everyone else, life can get in the way sometimes.

   These are the times when I realize just how important the physical act of love really is. A marriage is about more than just making love. But without that component, everything else is affected.

About The Author
I'm a freelance writer with about seven years of experience writing for newspapers and magazines. My husband and I have a wonderful, healthy sex life and it's a topic I love talking about with others.