you are here: In The Mood For Passion
by Jennifer Good
Ready to get your lovin' on? Did you know that when it comes to sex, your man has a substantially lower orgasmic threshold than you? In fact, there's quite a large discrepancy between what a man and a woman require in bed to feel sexually fulfilled. The average man needs only two to three minutes of direct stimulation to achieve orgasm while a woman needs an average of twenty to thirty minutes. It doesn't take much guess work to see that the solution to this difference requires foreplay and lots of it.
Unfortunately, foreplay sometimes gets a bad rap for being an unnecessary component of a women's desire for lovemaking. To kick this myth to the curb, below you'll find 7 tips for getting in the mood for love. These tips will help you to meet each other in the middle to create the most satisfying sexual experience for both partners.
1. Set The Stage
I'm aware this tip probably exists in every article about getting in the mood. While it may not seem like the freshest or newest tip, it still bears mentioning. A mood is set by everything around you, not just the motions of what you're doing. A TV blaring in the background with today's news isn't going to stir the senses the same way a sensual playlist will. Keep that in mind if you have time to plan a little ambiance, and indulge the senses with some candlelight, lingerie, and mood music.
2. Can I Touch You Here?
It's a well documented truth that humans require a fair amount of touching for their well-being. Satisfy this need and slowly build your partner's passion by exercising the act of touch. Experiment with different methods, such as a sensual massage, sexual stimulation or light feather caresses. To increase the tease factor, use other mediums such your tongue, your lips, a silky scarf, a feather, etc.
3. Don't Play Mind Games
The most common mistake women make in bed is assuming their partner should already know what they want. Your partner isn't a mind reader, and you can ruin an entire sensual experience with this type of expectation. Don't set your partner up for failure. Make sure you let your partner know what you like and don't like. In fact, most men find this type of frankness, especially when it's said in a sexy overture, quite the turn-on.
4. Play Mind Games
Okay, you're probably wondering what gives. Am I being a hypocrite? Not even a little bit. There are definitely mind games that are FABULOUS to play in bed that don't involve questioning your partner's psychic abilities. A few to consider involve role-playing your favorite scenarios, diving into deeper waters with some light bondage, and acting out favorite scenes from a movie or x-rated flick. You can even get into his head with hints about what's to come with sexy invitations, texts or emails throughout the day.
5. Mix It Up
Foreplay doesn't only have to be a lead-up to intercourse. In fact, taking a break from sex to move back into foreplay actually allows for an amazing opportunity to achieve new layers of sensual stimulation. Think about how wonderfully tortuous it would be to stop in the middle of intercourse and just spend a few minutes kissing and touching, slowing things down for a bit before moving back into sex. Now imagine how it will make your partner feel. Next time you're ready to switch positions, think about switching tactics completely and going back to foreplay instead.
6. Try Something New
There are so many adult couples-only products on the market now that you could probably try something "new" every single day of the week. Take a look at an online adult sensual products store and think of a few things you'd like try such as body paint, a new sensual love game, a new toy or a even an adult DVD. If you don't want to spend the extra money, be creative and think of some at-home solutions instead.
7. Love Your Partner
There are many reasons we engage in sexual activities. Not only is sex a great tension reliever, but it provides that feeling of togetherness you need as an intimate couple. You can always tell which couples are having great sex and which ones aren't. The key to that great sex is really simple. These couples love their partner...thoroughly. Lovemaking is more than something that feels great, it truly is an expression of their devotion to each other. Next time you're getting it on, give them a night they won't forget by showing them exactly how much you love them through your actions. Imagine that the only way you can communicate to them how much you love them is through what you do them physically. By the end of your encounter, they'll have no doubts how you feel.
