Not Sure How To Get Through

Question: I've been dating a girl for over four weeks, and she doesn't seem to want to kiss, and is uncomfortable when we hug. Have any advice?

Answer: It's highly possible she has not had a lot of physical contact with the opposite sex or even with anyone at all. Or, she could have been in an abusive relationship in the past. Without talking to her there is no way for me to know exactly, so I'll just concentrate on ways you can fix the problem. What you need to do is get her comfortable with being touched. Start off slowly by holding hands or brushing your hand against her cheek, etc. Non-threatening (non-sexual) touches are the best to start with. Once she gets comfortable with that then increase your touching to hugs, shoulder or head massages, etc. You might even give her a kiss on the hand, cheek and/or forehead. Avoid the lips until she is completely comfortable. As you're doing this talk with her about your desire to have more physical contact like kissing. Communication plays a large part in gaining her trust. Whatever you do, don't do anything to lose that.