Deployed Desire

Question: My husband is in the military and currently deployed. We often mess around with the web cam to have some fun, but I need some more ideas. I'm not good at talking dirty either. I've tried, but I just go blank. I want to "please" him, but it's so hard when he's not here in person. I need some ideas!

Answer: There are many ideas you can try to keep a long distance relationship sexually fulfilling. Men are very visually-oriented, so anything you can do that will stimulate him visually will always go a long way. Your web cam is probably your best tool to use. Instead of your normal chats, you could try something a little more risque, like a lingerie fashion show or a virtual strip show.

Spark his interest and surprise him with a few sexy letters or sensual stories along with a little revealing picture of yourself. You could make a sensual calendar for him. For each month, use a sexy picture of yourself or a sensual poem.

The written word can be quite stimulating and will keep his interest at times when he can't contact you. You could make him a journal of sensual poems or fantasies you'd like to try and then write notes about why you picked each one.

You mentioned talking dirty isn't something you're comfortable with, but you might give it a try in a recorded setting. Your voice is going to be a huge turn on for him, so if you can send him a tape of you reading a sensual story or an erotic poem, or even just telling him what you'd like to do him, you'll go very far in pleasing him.