First Time Long Distance Jitters

Question: My boyfriend lives in another country; we are planning on meeting around the holidays. We have had tons of phone sex, but when it comes to the real thing, I am kind of nervous about it. Should I plan a really romantic time, or just a wild sex romp, especially for this first encounter? We will have about a week together to explore all possibilities, but this first time is going to be memorable. ~Worried in Oregon

Answer: It's perfectly natural to be nervous about the first time with someone. To keep the memorable experience... memorable, keep in mind these tips:

• Make sure you are both comfortable and ready to actually have sex together.
  
  
• Make sure you both have protection and have discussed it prior to the encounter.
  
  
• Create a romantic ambiance by lighting a few candles and making sure the room is extremely clean. You might also think about adding some silk or satin sheets or other comfortable bedding. Don't go too overboard, just present a clean, romantic setting so you don't have to worry about it later.
  
  
• Don't decide on how you want to have sex, or what you plan to do together beforehand. Part of what makes a memorable experience memorable is it's spontaneity. Let the your moods depict whether it's slowly erotic or wildly passionate.