The Truth About Anal

Question: We have been married for four years already and I can say that we have a great relationship. I know my husband loves my "back part" and that is a big turn on for him. Although he would love to try to have anal sex, he never pushes me, but he does mention it sometimes. He knows I have never tried it before and I would be willing to experiment, however, I have no idea how to prepare for it and I want to have a really nice first experience. I am mentally ready, but I would love it if you could help me to prepare myself physically. I have heard different stories with some very different techniques and am quite confused, so any help would be appreciated.

Answer: Anal sex is unquestionably something you should be 100% mentally comfortable with before you approach the actual act. The key to a great first experience is really in a partner who understands this. If your partner takes the time to ensure you are at ease every step of the way, the potential discomfort will be diminished and possibly even removed all together. Having said that there are some things you should keep in mind.

• First on the list is cleanliness. Feeling and being clean is essential for a comfortable experience, so make sure to take a shower or a bath beforehand.
  
  
• The next thing to remember is to use lube, and lots of it.
  
  
• To get yourself prepared for the actual act, take it slow and have your partner work up to full anal play. Start with just getting touched in the area. When you feel ready, move up to using a finger or two. Once you are comfortable with that you could start moving up to actual intercourse. Be open to the idea that this process could take several sexual encounters to achieve. Don't get disappointed if you're not comfortable with it the first few times.
  
  
• Avoid possible infections by practicing safe sexual habits. If anything enters your rectal area, make sure to wash it thoroughly before doing anything else. Avoiding this can result in a very serious infection.
  
  
• Finally, the importance of communication cannot be overemphasized. Make it very clear to your partner how are your feeling each step of the way, so they can adjust accordingly.

In the end , how your experience goes will be determined by the type of relationship you have with your partner. Trust is truly a very critical factor when you are beginning to open yourself up to new intimate encounters. Whatever the act, if you trust your partner, it will always be a pleasant experience.