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Question: I am looking for advice on how to give my girlfriend the best sexual experience ever. I mean something that will totally blow her mind, something that she's never experienced before. What is it that drives a woman absolutely nuts in bed? Are there any tips or techniques that can help me blow my girlfriend away sexually in bed. I want her to feel something that she's never ever felt before. I want her to have the best ever sexual experience. P.S. Longevity is not a problem.

Answer: I'm going to let you in on a secret I feel most men are missing. Women love sex, but isn't just the sex that makes it arousing for us. It is the entire package. Women want to be seduced. They want to know their sexual partner truly loves or wants them, and only them, even if it is only for that moment. They want to know you adore their body as well as who they are. They want someone who will make them forget every single thing they are thinking about (children, work, chores, bills, etc.) and leave them wanton with desire. So how do you do that? Let's take a look at the way you are going about things right now.

When you have sex, do you find yourself thinking about whether or not she is enjoying the experience? If so, you are probably thinking too much. Sex should be filled with passion, and each partner should be caught up in the emotion of it.

Do you take the time to really connect emotionally with her? Trust me, you'll know if you have! While most sexual experiences feel good, it's the times where the partner took the effort to let the emotions build and connect that go down as a lasting memory.

Do you spend enough time on pre-sex stimulation? Focusing on pleasuring each other helps create an atmosphere of comfort and desire. If done properly, it can show your partner that you truly want them, and no one else at that very moment.

Do you expect your partner to give you sexual attention just because you gave it to them? Most people don't respond well to expectations. When you provide an atmosphere void of pressure to give or receive, you'll find your partner is more freely inclined to do these things.

Have you asked about her sexual fantasies? Yes, she has them and probably more than you! This is a great icebreaker if there is an uncomfortable tension, and perfect if you haven't connected in a while. Talk about your fantasies together and agree to act out at least one in the very near future.

Now that you have a better understanding of the female sexual psyche, here are a few ideas to help achieve your goal of mind-boggling sex!

The Game Of Love
If life is a game, sex is no different. Invest in a sexually stimulating game to encourage new adventures and experiences. My personal favorite is Sex Play. It's simple, easy to play and can be very erotic!

Sensory Overload
Some of the most erotic experiences are felt when the person doesn't actually know what they are feeling. Take it upon yourself to find ways to overload your partner's senses. You can do this by using a blindfold and experimenting with different textures, or you can try focusing on having your partner experience many different feelings at once.

Rub Me Three Times
Be the master genie and let your partner tell you what they want! Have them write out in full detail a fantasy of theirs that they would like you to fulfill. Set a date and time for your encounter, and be her love genie!