Caught Up In Sex

Question: How soon is too soon? A friend introduced me to a guy who is friends with her boyfriend. This guy, whose name is Mike...we met like three times. On the third time, we were on this visit to an out of town farm. We started kissing, and kissing. It was like we couldn't stop. Then one thing lead to another, and we slept together. It felt so right, and that's strange to me. I don't normally do something like that. We saw each other again, this time at his house. We spent the evening out with friends, then... much later, it happened again. We were talking on subjects totally non-related to sex... then, we ended up kissing... non-stop and we ended up having sex again which was the most incredible sex I have ever experienced in my entire life!! I need to know, is it wrong to be having sex too soon? And when is too soon? And, can two people have a sexual chemistry, and also start a relationship? Or, does having sex cloud everything, and there is no possibility of a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship??

Answer: Often, sexual chemistry is what starts the initial relationship. Usually there needs to be some type of physical attraction. As to whether it's right or wrong, that depends on you. If you're looking for outside opinions, you'll find support either way. Personally, when it comes to matters like this, I go by what my instincts say. If you're comfortable with it, then I see nothing wrong. At some point though, you're probably going to want more than just a sexual relationship. It might be a good idea to talk about what each of you desires from the relationship you're having now. See if he envisions a future. If he doesn't, then decide if that matches your long-term goals.