Signs You're Dating A Loser

by Brettani Shannon

Signs You're Daing A Loser
What's wrong with me? Why didn't I see it before? These are the cries of a woman who realizes she's fallen for the tricks of a dog, a loser, or a deadbeat. It may be asking to much to expect a relationship resume from the men you date to make sure they're not losers, but you can educate yourself on the warning signs and make it a strict policy of three strikes and you're out!

Conversational Warning Signs

His car is the love of his life – If he talks about his car more than he does the significant relationship in his life, you should plan on coming in second to his car as well.
Overt sexual innuendos – On his t-shirt, bumper sticker, online profile, with his eyes or out his mouth, overt sexual innuendos suggests an immature and/or ugly person. He won’t fulfill your fantasies in the bedroom or as a partner.
It’s always somebody else’s fault – A mature person takes responsibility for their part in misfortunes. A guy who plays the blame game is juvenile, insecure and unable to humble his heart enough to truly love someone else.
Bad work history – Inquire about his work history and ask plenty of questions. His resume will tell you how dependable and responsible he is, what he’s interested in, and even how he deals with conflict. You can see if he has a clue where he wants to be in life, how far he is (or isn’t) on his journey toward goals, and information on his financial stability.
Constantly correcting you – If he can’t help but correct you during your conversation, don’t disregard it. That can be incredibly irritating, but also is a sign that he’s got a complex and needs to find ways to feel bigger than you to feel good about himself.
Talks way more than he listens – Self-consumed people don’t have room in their hearts for others. On the contrary, active listeners, people who ask questions and more questions to get to know you better, are generous and open minded.
Tells you that he isn’t looking for a commitment – He means it, so don’t bother wasting your time with them.
Comments more about your appearance than your personality – While attraction is first based on looks, your inner beauty is what carries it to a deeper level. You want to make sure that he cares more about who you are as a person than how you look with your clothes off.
They make racist or sexist comments – There is no excuse for anyone to still be under the assumption that people are less worthy than others based on race or sex. Any sign of that and it’s over.

Behavior Warning Signs

Gambling – Gambling is a tricky addiction. It can be hard to identify. If you notice that he gambles fairly often and also has questionable finances, you can bet that it’s a problem.
Entitlement – If he goes about his days like the world owes him something, then he has a major character flaw, entitlement. You can tell if he is one of these guys by how he treats others, how he deals with disappointment, and how much he consumes. If he consumes more than he should (demands more attention than he gives, wastes more money than he gives, causes more drama than he prevents, and produces more garbage than the average person,) it is suggests that he’s lazy and selfish with his life.
Never wants to go anywhere – If your guy is a home-body, you’ve got to wonder why. Is he a video game junkie? Is he depressed and uninterested in life? Maybe he’s afraid of seeing the other women he’s dating, or maybe he’s just plain lazy.
Changes his attitude often – A change in his tune could mean a whole slew of things, but all of them are bad, so I won’t go into it other than to say they range from guilt to mental illness to a way of manipulating you.
Checks out other women – If he’s looking somewhere else, he isn’t looking for you, so be on your way.
No license or no car – Unless he lives in an area where using public transportation is the thing to do, you can bet that bad life choices are the reason your man doesn’t have any wheels. If it’s no license, be aware that it takes a lot of naughtiness to get your license revoked or even suspended in most cases.
Makes fun of the less fortunate – If your date comments about anyone less fortunate than he, especially if they are poking fun at someone for having less money, being less attractive, or having a mental health problem, it's a bad sign.

Warning Signs On The Homefront

He lives with his mother – Unless he is caring for an elderly mother or rescuing her from foreclosure by shacking up with her, it’s a sure sign he’s a loser.
Has a bong displayed as décor – You can be sure he has the mentality of a sixteen year old boy and it won’t develop past that for at least a decade, so carry on at your own risk!
Allows you to overextend yourself – If you offer to wash dishes after dinner and he thanks you, but plops down on the couch with a beer instead of helping, run, girl, run! If he lets you pay for everything and then hints toward a foot massage, he’s a selfish loser.

Financial Warning Signs

Over-due bills – By the time a guy is in his early 20s, even if he wasn’t financial responsibility by his parents, he should have learned to be responsible with his bills.
Bills in someone else’s name – This can only mean one of two things: It’s an ex who isn’t out of the picture (even if he says she is) or a more responsible person is the account holder because the company refused to open an account in your date’s name. Either way, ouch!
Maxed out credit cards – Living beyond their means is a sign of irresponsible living, yes, but more importantly, it’s a good indicator of low self-esteem, lack of self-control, and a superficial heart. What is on his credit card/bank statements is also important. It is a well known fact that what you spend your money on is what you care about. It’s a good insight into someone’s priorities in life.

Often-Overlooked Warning Signs

Inconsistent (or more than three) online dating site profiles – If he’s trying to increase his chances of hooking up by portraying himself differently on multiple profiles, it’s a sign he’s a dishonest person. If he’s got a ton of profiles, even after you have been dating for a while, it’s a sign he’s dating other people, or at least chatting with other prospects.
Their profiles are trashy – Foul language, songs about pimps and ho's, and anything demeaning to women on any of his online profiles is a sign he’s trashy and not worth your time.
Criminal history and/or multiple driving infractions – Careless speeding once is understandable, but multiple tickets? Not good. Criminal history is of course a big red flag, so make sure your guy has a clean slate. If you know your guy has a history, you may want to take some time to get more information. You can call your local sheriff and police stations for criminal and traffic information, go to the law library for eviction records and leans, and your court house to check on divorces, law suits, traffic violations, etc. It’s all public record, so take advantage of it!
Bad reputation – Bad reps speak for themselves. Listen to what his exes have to say. Don’t dismiss suspicious comments by his friends and family. They are big clues to what he’s really like. If they don’t trust him, neither should you.