I am confused on what to do. My boyfriend and I were going out for over 2 years and everything was going great. He used to tell me that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me and even got me a promise ring. Well, this fall we transferred to a new school and everything changed. We got into fights a lot and then we went on a break. We tried to work things out, but then we ended up breaking up. He met a girl and hangs out with her a lot now. I still love him very much and want to be with him. It just feels like he didn’t even care that we broke up and likes this new girl. I was just wondering if you knew what could possibly be going through his mind because he won’t even talk to me and he’s always with this new girl. Will I ever be able to have another chance with him? Does he really like this girl or is it just a rebound? Please help me!
--Lonely In Love

Dear Lonely In Love,
Living with unrequited affection is a tremendously lonely position to be in. I think the problem here is that you haven’t accepted that the relationship, from his end anyway, is already over. Whether he’s interested in this new girl or not really has no bearing. For whatever reason something changed significantly enough in the relationship to cause a final split. I know it hurts a lot right now, and two years certainly is a long time to devote to a relationship. However, at this point it’s time to face the fact that this relationship is over. It’s time for you to find some closure and start thinking about what you want in a new relationship. Use this experience as a guide to helping you with future romantic decisions. For more help in this area you might want to check out this article, “Handling a Break up Without Looking Desperate.”

With Love,

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