There seems to be a communication gap between my husband and me. We have been married for 22 years now. During the last 5 years, things seem to have been breaking down more and more between us. We don't have a conversation for more than 2 minutes with one another. My eldest daughter asked us some time back why we don't want to get divorced as there is no communication between us anymore. How do I rectify this?
--Without Words

Without Words,
I believe when there is a serious communication issue in a marriage such as this; there is also a serious priority problem. Look at it this way, if you were about to lose your employment because you where not placing enough importance on an area of your work, I'm fairly certain you would make every effort to correct this. Your relationship with your spouse is one of the most important aspects of your life. If you don't make time to talk, play and just plain enjoy being together, you might as well not be married. You certainly aren't acting like you are.

My advice is simple. Do whatever it takes to get "it" back. Go away for the weekend. Go to some place where there are no TVs, phones, or other distractions. If you are unable to arrange private time like this, then plan a date night where you can spend quality time together. There are plenty of unique ideas within Lovingyou.com to get you started. The bottom line here is if you don't make this marriage a priority, you're not going to have a marriage. Instead of finding yourself without words you will find yourself without a spouse.

With Love,

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