I have been with my man for 2 1/2 years. I recently found out that he cheated on me by kissing another girl. He also has been lying to me through our entire relationship. He has been lying about dating other girls. He has also lied about girls that he slept with before we were together. He was ashamed because of the "type" of girls they were, and they were not very good looking. I am not sure I am comfortable with the number of girls. How do I EVER trust him again? How do I keep it from happening again? I don’t want to keep bring it up and asking him about it, but I can not get over it.
--Lied To Too Many Times

Dear Lied To Too Many Times,
There are some lines in a relationship where the damage can never be completely undone once crossed. This type of dishonesty is definitely one of those lines. You asked yourself in your email if you could ever trust him the same again. In the back of your mind won’t you always wonder if he’s still being untrue? Is that the kind of relationship you see yourself having? Do you really want to be the one that’s always questioning his whereabouts, who his friends are and being secretly suspicious of his every move? It’s not a healthy situation to be in and no amount of love is ever going to drive those doubts away. This time you need to learn a new kind of love… self-love! Love yourself enough to be able to walk away from this destructive relationship and find someone who is truly worth your affection and devotion.

With Love,

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