My girlfriend and I have only been dating for 3 months now. We are in a long distance relationship, and we talk on a chat program called IMVU. I found out she took credits from my account without my permission. I have no problem with it, but she lied about it. Now what has me concerned is she talks to her ex boyfriend a lot, but she talks to me more. She has changed a little, and it made me curious, so I asked her if she wanted to get back together with him. She said she doesn't love him and she doesn't want him back and she got really mad at me. She told me to just say I don't trust her. I tried to apologize, but she doesn't want to hear it. She was supposed to call me earlier and hasn't called at all. I just want to know what's going on, and what should I do? I don't want to lose her, but I unable to discuss a problem because she gets mad.
--Apology Not Accepted

Apology Not Accepted,
It can be difficult for someone to hear that they did something wrong. However, it's even more difficult to build a solid relationship when one partner is purposely hindering communication. One has to outweigh the other.

You also have to take into consideration that her pride is probably a little hurt. You caught her stealing from you. She probably sincerely believes you don't trust her. Instead of giving you the benefit of the doubt she's going on the attack. If you want to set things on a positive track, your job is to assure her that the trust you have for her still remains.

You'll also need to get to the root of the reason why she used your credits without asking. That kind of disrespect doesn't belong in a relationship, and shouldn't just be overlooked. It is possible this is a pattern of hers, but only time will tell.

You're really going to have to use your intuition here. The fact that it is a long distance relationship is going to make that more difficult. If she's avoiding you, it could be a sign of her real nature and is a serious indicator of her communication style. To be completely honest, I'd be less worried about losing her than what life might be like if she stays.

With Love,

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