My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. At first it was amazing! He devoted almost all of his time to me and we had a house together and everything. Unfortunately, we lost our house because we're young and couldn't exactly afford it. Now, we're staying in different places and don't see each other very much. He wants to take this traveling job. It makes me feel like he's just trying to take the easy way out, like he wants to split up but doesn't exactly want to be the one to have to do it. He says he's trying hard to get us a new house, but it's been four months since we've had one. I just feel alone and like he doesn't care. I need more time with him for this to work. I don't know what to do. Should I feel the way I do? What is your opinion?
--I Think He's Lost Interest

I Think He's Lost Interest,
It seems like you're really spending a lot of attention on what's going wrong for you. Your guy is out there trying to save money and get a job to help you both out. Instead of giving him the support he deserves, you're complaining that he isn't spending enough time with you. Even worse, you've accused him of not loving you. It's not like everything stayed the same in your relationship and all of a sudden his interest has waned. There are very real reasons behind the changes. Sometimes you just need to face that reality isn't getting to be with your partner whenever you want. Does it suck that the only job he feels he could get right now is one that will cause you to be apart even more? Yes! Should you ask him about how he feels about it, or why he feels he needs to take this particular job? Yes! You might be a little too focused on your needs right now instead of your needs as a couple. A little inconvenience might just be worth the time together later. Talk it over and really try to see where he's coming from. If after trying to see it from his perspective you still feel his feelings have changed, well maybe it's better to part ways now instead of waiting for him to end it.

With Love,

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