My boyfriend and I have been living together for 4 years. I admit that when I first met him, it was a rebound relationship. I went back with my ex a couple of times, even after my boyfriend and I had already been living together. It hurt him and I tried to explain to him that closure wasn't there for me yet. My boyfriend is such an awesome guy and I eventually fell head over heels in love for him, and forgot about my ex. I have a son as well who eventually called him dad and we had marriage plans. Last year, he indicated that he was having second thoughts about our relationship and how he wasn't ready for a family. We sold our house, so he can have his space and be able to think of exactly what he wants. The problem I, the reason we sold the house is because he no longer wanted to be in the relationship and wanted to move on. After selling the house he realized that he just wanted us to start over again and to start dating. You can definitely see that his heart is not into it, so I don't even know why he bothers. He does everything a perfect boyfriend should. He has flowers & plants delivered to my work and he's planning a big party for me... I just have this feeling that his heart is not into it. I wonder if I should be the bigger person and just let him go, knowing deep down that I'm not the one for him and he's looking for something else? This taking it one day at a time is really draining me. I want so much and he can only give so little. -I Want It All

Dear I Want It All,
I don't feel wanting it all when it comes to relationship is too much to ask. If he can't give you what you need, and you feel things aren't likely to change, it might be the best thing for you to be the one to break things off. Honestly, there isn't a point in dragging out the inevitable. Waiting just makes it that much longer before you can find someone who IS willing to give you everything. Just take some time to evaluate what it is you want from life and from a future partner before jumping into another relationship. If anything, this relationship should have taught you many things. Really allow yourself the time to learn from your mistakes. It can only make your next relationship that much stronger.

With Love,

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