I have been seeing this guy for a month now. I am a Christian and he is not. I feel that the person I will someday marry must be of the same beliefs as I am. Since I have told him this, he has been asking me all about it. I told him that this is too important for him and me for him to do it just because I asked him to. He said he agreed. Well, I am not sure he is serious about this. What would you do? -Interested In Religion Or Me?

Dear Interested In Religion Or Me?,
Common religious beliefs are an important step when considering a marital partner. I know you've only been dating for a month, but I do applaud you for addressing this issue before it actually becomes an issue. You can't really know at this point if he is genuinely interested in your beliefs. The best way to know is to actually talk to him about it. When I first met my husband, I was not aware of what my partner's religion was about, but after talking with him about it in more detail I realized it matched my own beliefs as well. This could be a similar situation. I've also known other couples that have started their religion because of a partner's interest in it. In many cases, they have become even more involved in the religion than their partner was. What I'm trying to say is that your relationship is still young. If he really wants to learn about your religion than I wouldn't deny him that chance. Spend time talking about your beliefs together. The more you talk about it the more you will learn how serious he is about it. As for the future of your relationship, you may want to slow things down until you feel comfortable about his religious choices.

With Love,

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