I have been "seeing" someone for a few months. He is by far the most thoughtful, wonderful man I have ever known. He treats me with a great deal of respect, we talk every day and see each other a couple of times a week. Our connection seemed natural right from the start. The difficulty is that I really don't know how he feels about me, and when I ask, he tells me that he cares about me, that I am one of the most caring people he knows, he enjoys being with me, etc., but he never tells me where his heart is. My dad was recently very sick, and he has never met my parents, but he sent my father flowers in the hospital, which blew me away completely. I guess I am looking for your opinion. Do his actions or his words speak louder about the way he feels? I know he is a cautious person by nature and has had some difficult situations in the past. -Does He Love Me?

Dear Does He Love Me?,
It's easy as a woman to want our feelings all neat and tidy in a pretty little box with a ribbon. Men on the other hand, especially in a new relationship, aren't always as ready to commit to their feelings. I think with his actions, while he may not feel in love with you at this moment, you certainly have a fantastic foundation for it to become more. He seems like a great catch, and it would be more than worth your time to let him become more comfortable and intimate with you. Look at it this way, would you rather be with someone who says they love you every moment, but doesn't do half of what this guy is doing? Or, would you rather be with someone who takes his emotions seriously and shows you at every opportunity that you are someone he cares very much for? Just do what you are doing and let things take their pace. When you want to show him how you feel, don't tell him you love him until he tells you. Instead find other ways to express how you feel. For example, you let him know how much you respect him and how much he has contributed to your life. You can say how you feel without saying those specific words. With a guy like this, I think this may be your best chance at getting him to tell you how he really feels.

With Love,

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