I have been dating this guy for over a year and recently I finally got up the nerve and told him I love him. He didn't say anything back to me. I was crushed. The next day he called to tell me he was sorry he acted like he did and that I had caught him off guard. He said that he cared for me but he wasn't ready to say that to me. That has been two months ago and we haven't discussed the issue since. I know that I love him and I enjoy being with him. We only get to see each other about once a week because of our schedules and I am usually the one that has to call him during the week to say hey and see how he is. I have told him that he upsets me when he only calls me when he wants to go out or when I call him. He will do better for a few weeks and then it is back to me always calling him. Neither one of us has dated much in the past. How long should I wait for him to finally decide if he loves me or not? And is it a bad sign that he doesn't call me much during the week? I know that I love him but I don't want to date him forever and then never have him love me back. -Could We Be A Couple?

Dear Could We Be A Couple?,
A year is a long time to be dating someone and to still feel this way. If I was in this situation, I'd probably start bailing out. If he calls you, GREAT, go out with him and have fun. But, don't call him first. He may be totally into you, but doesn't realize he isn't showing it. Or, maybe he doesn't feel the need to call since you call him enough already. Honestly, though, I wouldn't put too much hope into this being a lasting relationship. It sounds like he likes you enough to have some one to hang out with, but not enough to take it to some type of commitment level. Don't get caught in the trap of why he may feel this way. It doesn't even matter why; he just does and you would probably be better off looking for someone new to hang your heart with.

With Love,

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