I'm not the prettiest girl, but I'm not the ugliest either. Men never even look at me, they don't ask me out, and I haven't even had a date for a year. When I did date, I was always the one asking the men out. They accepted, but they always expect something in return. So, how do I get over being such a loser with men? -Can't Attract Anyone

Dear Can't Attract Anyone,
Well, first, you probably need a bit of attitude adjustment. No ONE wants to be around someone who is so down on themselves. You can feel it on the inside, but DO NOT let it show on the outside. I know after lacking attention for such a long period of time it can be difficult to not give into the negative feelings. The best way to handle a problem though is to figure out how to fix it. If you feel your looks are the problem, then change them. Go out and get an awesome new hair color and style. Go to a few different make up stores and get a free make over done. I recommend more than one, that way you can compare different styles and see what you like best. After about three you can see a pattern emerge and a style that you prefer. Next, consider jazzing up your wardrobe. Mix and match things you already have. Dress up a little more than normal. For example, high heels with your jeans; skirts instead of shorts. Once you've got your new "look" sewn up, it's time to work on your social situation. If you're not getting asked out, chances are you're not around enough people or situations to get asked out. Join a few social clubs in your area where you can meet new people. If you are shy, practice your skills online first with an online dating service. Go out to more public places like art shows, special exhibits, etc. The point is to go places where people are supposed to talk with each other. If you can follow these tips you will find a dramatic increase in your social life.

With Love,

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