I am 21 my boyfriend is 37. He has two children from a previous marriage. I LOVE THE KIDS! They do not present an issue. His ex-wife however does. He says he hates her, and can not stand her. He also had another girlfriend before we started dating that he was completely in love with. She was young also like me compared to his age. Last week I found nude photos of his ex-wife and ex-girlfriend. His explanation was that he didn't know that he still had them. He has been divorced for 5 years and not with the other girl for 2. He has moved since he has been with either person more than once. He said he never wants to hear another thing about the pictures again because I was "probably still in high school" when those where taken. I feel as though there is much more he is hiding from me. Am I overreacting? Should I give him the benefit of the doubt and let go of it? -His Past Relationships

Dear His Past Relationships,
If there is nothing else wrong in the relationship, odds are you're overreacting. When you're in a relationship, a certain amount of trust needs to exist. To me, nude photos of a previous partner really isn't a big deal when you realize you're talking about a guy. He probably considers them more like a collector's item than something to derive sexual pleasure from. You can't erase what happened between him and the partners before you. Having the pictures doesn't mean he cares for you less or finds you less attractive. He says he can't stand his ex-wife. If he hasn't given you any other reason to doubt this, then you should believe him. Instead of focusing on what he may or may not be hiding, focus on making this the one relationship that he won't want to hide anything from.

With Love,

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