Help me! My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me a month ago. He moved down to VA in March to be with me after I took a job down here in January. He has always said he felt like something was missing, but everything else was so good, so he stuck around. Now he says he needs time to just be single and figure himself out. The problem is, we live together and neither of us can afford to move out (and we have a lease). It is KILLING me to see his face when I get home everyday. He also tells me I'm his best friend in the world and he doesn't want to lose that! So, he continues to talk to me. It's driving me nuts. I have panic attacks when I think about him. I can't sleep. I can't eat. Please help me!! I'm so broken hearted. I love this man SO much! -Severely Broken Hearted

Dear Severely Broken Hearted,
I know the pain you must feel right now is heart-wrenching and excruciating, but each day it will be a little less. The only true cure for heart break is time. I know it doesn't offer much comfort, but it's true. In the meantime though, if you must life together, you need to set up some personal ground rules. It is so easy to give in to someone you love in the hope that they will change their mind. If he wants to be just friends, then you need to be JUST friends. For a little while you may want to see about staying at friend's or family member's home just to help ease your pain. Quite frankly, it's a little too much for him to expect you to just be okay and act like nothing has changed. Honestly though, you should also be looking for another place to live because part of being single and "figuring yourself out" is dating other people. I can't imagine you want to stick around for that.

I know I keep putting the burden on you to make the changes, but I really sense that you are a strong individual. The changes made will benefit you more than if he left. I understand the hurt you are in, but remember that everyone experiences heart break at least once in their life. You can either choose to stay stuck in this pain, or you can realize this is just a process or trial you need to go through to find your true inner strength and discover that perfect someone who is to be your true life partner.

With Love,

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