My boyfriend of almost 3 years is feeling the need to break up with me. One night we had some friends over, and we all were drinking and planning on going to a club. Well, I had way too much to drink, and acted like a fool in front of these people, and I was getting sick and everything. Now, I'm feeling worse than ever about it, and I really want to improve this situation, and make him happy, but he says he's had enough. I'm so scared right now. I love him so much, and he doesn't believe me that I can make improvements. I've improved a lot already, and I think I'm somewhat of a better person because of it, but now, I'm even more determined to get our relationship back on track! I'm so sad right now, what should I do? I've already begun to read self help books, and I wouldn't mind going back to my counselor. I don't know what else to do. he’s so important to me, and I don't want to lose him!!! -Will Do Anything To Get Him Back

Dear Will Do Anything To Get Him Back,
If you're going to do anything, you should do it for yourself, because you want to. It's fine to want to change for someone when you already wanted to, but what happens if he still leaves? Will you go back to your old habits? If you want your changes to be permanent, you need to make the changes because you want them. I think it's great he's being a catalyst for your improvement, but don't do this with the hopes that it will get him back. If he really loves you, he should see your efforts are true. I would approach him from the perspective of having him help you through it. Tell him everything you've told me. Unless he's truly determined not to be with you, it should have some effect on him. Just remember, if he does leave, don't go back to your old habits. You don't need someone else to make you a better person.

With Love,

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