I have known this guy for about 2 months now, and we have been sleeping together for at least 1 1/2 months. I am falling in love with him. I'm afraid to tell him because I don't want to lose his friendship. But, then I'm afraid if I don't tell him he will find someone else and tell me that I never told him how I felt! I am newly divorced and he has been for 2 years now. He has two boys and I have a son. I think we could make a wonderful life together. I don't call him or go find him, he always calls me and asks me to come over, we have sex, and then I go home! Please help me. I'm so in love with this guy and heartbroken and confused about what to do! -Wondering About A Future Us

Dear Wondering About A Future Us,
Well, first of all, I'd probably try to arrange other types of encounters that don't include sex. Otherwise, your value to him isn't as high. In the future, if this relationship doesn't work out, don't let yourself get into a situation where it's mostly sexual. You need an even balance of respect for each other and a purely sexual relationship won't give you that.

As for telling him how you feel, there is only one way to find out if he feels the same way. You've only just begun this relationship, so it would be better to find out early. The longer you wait, the harder it's going to be if he doesn't feel the same way. I do think if you're able to have sex with someone though, that you should be able to talk to them about what possibilities you have for a future together.

The other thing you should also consider is how your new marital status is contributing to your feelings. Is this a rebound relationship? Have you taken time to figure what you want in a relationship? Or, what you've learned about your past ones? These are important steps that shouldn't be overlooked. Before getting into any new relationship you should make sure you're comfortable with who you are and what has happened.

With Love,

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