I'm having a serious problem that both relates to commitment and long-distance. My girlfriend of nearly two years just left our home in Alabama to go off to culinary school in California. Before she left, she made it very clear that although she loves me, she wants to live her life in California and be able to date other people. I, on the other hand, have no desire to do the same, and I'm actually almost ready to marry her. When I went to visit her last weekend, I made an off comment about commitment and she got really upset at me. Does this mean that she doesn't love me as much as she says she does or is she just simply trying to make sure that I'm the right one? Should I be worried about what is going to happen with her or should I be confident that she cares about me? -Different Paths

Dear Different Paths,
I hate to be the one to tell you this, but it sounds like your girlfriend has other plans...and they don't include you. Big moves often signify new beginnings or starting over. It seems from what she's told you that she wants to have new experiences and not be limited by the fact she has a boyfriend waiting back home. If I were you, I would definitely find out exactly where you stand with her. There is absolutely no use holding out for someone if they aren't willing to do the same. The way it looks right now, you either face the heartbreak now, or possibly face something worse later on.

With Love,

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