I have been with this wonderful man for the past six months. Lately it seems as if our feelings are growing. Last month I told him I loved him and I meant it for sure. I invited him to my beach house for a weekend away but he told me wasn't sure. We have been talking about where our relationship is going, but the conversations have still left me with a lot of questions. The past couple of weeks he has been telling me how much he cares for me, and just the other day he did something he never does: he told me that he had missed me so much and that he wanted to go away with me next weekend to the beach. My question is, do you think that he's more ready for the commitment now than he was before? He never said he wasn't, but he always said to give him time. -Does This Mean He's Ready?

Dear Does This Mean He's Ready,
With a situation like this you have to let your own personal limits be your guide. It could be very possible he's ready for a relationship, and it could be just as possible that he's not. From what you've said it doesn't sound like he is purposely stringing you along. He may really just need the time to conquer his own inner demons. One of the best ways to handle someone who isn't sure they are ready to commit is to make sure they don't feel as if they need to. Go on your weekend getaway and see how things go from there. Give him a glimpse of what could be by loving every moment of being together. Just enjoy each moment as it happens, and don't worry about your future with him for the few days you are together. You may find he'll come around sooner rather than later that way. If you don't have a good idea of where things stand when you get back, make an internal note as to how far you're willing to take this without a commitment. Define explicitly what your limits are. You don't need to verbalize your thoughts to him. Just knowing that you know what your expectations are will help the situation.

With Love,

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