I feel as though my heart is being torn. I have two possible men to choose from. The first is bright, mature, and is just so much like me. We share common interests and enjoy and want the exact same thing. The second is younger than myself. We share some of the same ideals and interests. He likes to be witty (not for his own good) and sometimes I get the feeling that I am what us daters call "the fall back" girl. Even still, he has touched a special place in my heart. I also see that he does not know what he wants, and still has some wild oats to sew. The first guy has already gone through that stage, and it is like we are on the same exact levels in our life. What should I do? -Who Do I Pick?

Dear Who Do I Pick?,
I'm not sure why you're asking me to help you choose when it seems like you've got the answer written right in front of you. If you're looking for a nod in either direction, I can't give that to you. It has to be your decision. What I can tell you is what is needed if you want to have a serious relationship that could possibly turn into something long-term, like marriage. You need someone who has the same principle viewpoints so you don't feel like you're always looking at things from different realities. You need to share enough common interests that will keep you both entertained, so you don't get bored. You need someone who will continue to grow with you so you don't end up at completely different life stages. You need someone you can talk to about serious issues, and someone you can just shoot the breeze with. You need someone who you can love no matter what happens, and who you feel will do the same for you. If you're lucky enough to find someone who fits those characteristics, don't let them slip through your fingers for a slight tug of your heartstrings somewhere else.

With Love,

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