I've been chasing this girl for three years and now that I have her it's great. I fell in love with her and she fell in love with me. We've had our share of problems. She says I've changed, but I don't know how. I just want to make her feel safe, even though she says she's fine. I know that there's something bothering her, but she won't tell me. She says that I'm not the guy she fell in love with. She said at the start we talked about anything and everything, and now we mostly talk about sex. I find that it's hard to stop, but we decided to take it slow. So, the question is...How can I get back to that person I was? We've been going out for 8 months. I love her so much and want be the best for her. Can you help please? -Losing Her Quickly

Dear Losing Her Quickly,
Every relationship has plateau stages where the initial interests seem to have worn off. It is at these stages when most couples tend to self-evaluate the relationship. In this case, she says the problem is the pressure of sex. She may be feeling as if all the focus is on a sexual relationship, and not a romantic one. There needs to be an equal balance, and women in particular need to know they are wanted for more than just a means to an end. My advice would be to take some extra measures to woo her. Have you gone out on dates like you used to? Have you made out without going all the way? Communicate to her through your actions that you want this to work.

With Love,

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