I've been dating this gentleman for 4 years, but only on weekends. I've told him that I love him, but he just says he cares a lot for me. It has been just weekends…for 4 years. I want more than just that. He is very kind gentle, sweet, and I know he does indeed care for me. Am I wasting my time or will things ever change for the better? We have both been married (not to each other) and divorced. I'm not looking for marriage right now, but I would like to move in with him and see where we stand in our relationship. I am very jealous and he has tons and I mean a lot of female "friends." He doesn't share a lot with me. He is often very guarded with his life -- extremely private. I, on the other hand am very nosey, I want to know it all. Help! What should I do? -Weekend Lover

Dear Weekend Lover,
To be perfectly honest, why have you waited for 4 years to let this go? Please don't settle your hopes on this guy. Right now you are a convenience to him, nothing more. If you are only looking for a fun fling, then stay with him. But, if you want a long-term relationship, run for the hills! Nothing about this relationship indicates he has more than a "care for you" attitude. He won't tell you about himself…after four years. He won't open his schedule for more time together…after four years. He doesn't share your feelings of affection…after four years. I don't know how much longer you think you are supposed to wait, but if this were happening to me, I wouldn't waste another minute in this relationship.

With Love,

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