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When entering the world of online dating, it’s sad but true: A little paranoia goes a long way!
Rule #1: Don’t give out your address “My number-one rule is: Do NOT let someone you just met – online or otherwise – pick you up at your home. You do not want a stranger – and yes, no matter how many times you’ve emailed, talked on the phone and viewed his profile, he’s still a stranger – to know where you live!” says Ginger Ema, author of Back on Top: Fearless Dating After Divorce (Globe Pequot Press, May 2009).
Rule #2: Meet on your turf
So, where should this first date take place? Meet somewhere convenient for you, in a public place, hopefully where you know some of the wait staff or bartenders. “I probably took forty-five first dates to the same little café a few miles from my home, in a busy retail area. They knew me there – heck, I think they had a betting pool in the back about which guy I would end up with. But I felt safe!” Ginger says.
Rule #3: Drive yourself
The safety doesn’t end there. When going on this first date, be sure that you take your own car and you tell a friend where you are going and the name of the person you are meeting (hopefully it is his actual name), and you have an exit strategy. This can be something like telling your date ahead of time that you’ve got a meeting or have to pick up the kids. “When you meet a guy out, you can leave at any time. This is incredibly important when there are 20 million guys online, and you’re not doing an Intelius.com report on each one. If something feels awkward, off, or it’s simply not a match, you say thank you and get in your car and go home,” Ginger says.
Rule #4: Keep personal info personal
Another important safety tip before even getting to that first date is to create an anonymous email account for one that does not include your first name or last name and that doesn’t have your birth date as part of the username. You don’t want to give out all that information to people you are just meeting, it’s how they can stalk you!
Rule #5: Block your number
It’s also a good idea to learn to block your number when you are calling someone from your cell phone. You may not want a new guy to have your cell phone number yet – maybe never!
Rule #6: Don’t bring a new date home
Ginger also suggests never bring a new date to your home to meet your children. In fact, experts recommend that your kids not meet anyone you are dating until it is a serious, exclusive relationship – long enough for you to feel very comfortable about who this man is, and to know that this is something long-term.
Your kids have already had disruption to their lives, no matter how amicable a divorce is. And children can be funny – they may tell us they want us to date; they may tell us they want us to go out, but they are affected by anything that rocks their world. Your kids just don’t need to be in on your dating stories, or who your ex is dating, either. On the other hand, once you are serious with someone, slowly introduce him to your child(ren). “Nothing surprised me more than having a relationship that integrated with the rest of my life. I seriously thought I would only date every Wednesday and every other weekend – when my son was with his dad. And that’s how it went for years – I didn’t date on ‘my son’s time,’” Ginger says. “But once I was in a long-term relationship that I knew was going to last, I introduced him to my son. I never imagined a holistic post-divorce relationship where my son likes my boyfriend, my boyfriend likes my son (this is saying a lot – he is, after all, a teenager). My ex likes my boyfriend and vice versa – I am the Demi Moore of my neighborhood!”
“While not everyone who dates online loves it, it is still the best place to meet more men per minute. I mean, I’ve been viewed 48,000 times on one site! Where else would I have a pool of 48,000 interested men? “
Hi,dear members it’s true but some times it keeps some friend/partners not to trust one another.Some times some people needs it.
Hi deariae.i agreed with ur point and ave also learn 1 or 2 things.still expectg more messages 4rm u.thanks.
Are these Rules for men or Women?Rule 1 and 2 Are voidable, you are not expected to give someone you just met your address the same day, but what if he wanted to express romance, send some flowers blabla bla ? 2,Meet on your Turf, the guy wants to meet on his Turf, the Lady wants to meet on her Turf how will that be Arranged?
Rule 3 Ok,
RULE 4??How can a guy know about you especially when some ladies think everything you ask is personal most esp women with mood swings?
Rule 5 Block your number, if he is Unable to connect to internet , busy at work and can only sms or call for a few mins, Communication is the key to success of any relationship , he is not contacting you and you assume the guy isn’t interested , then whose fault is it?
Rule 6 Ok, but never say never, how about love at sight ??
Conclusion? everyone needs a break i do not think there are rules for falling in Love, all we need do is follow our hearts ,seek advise, try to be open and be cautious, the way you handle things, shows how the other person will be able to reciprocate
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this is all ship ya talking about ….dont forget there is love at first sight and its last long
when i was in college i received an email from a so jessica montel from the united states. before i know what was going on, i was invited and directed to send money through the western union money transfer.it makes me hate the net and stop answering mails for the feeling that had for the first time meeting somewhat that i love.of course they were scammers. but they failed.
thanks alot ,but i hav only one mail which i use 4 most of the work on net what i do cos i hav already chated with so many people
Online dating is gud but truthfulnes,sincerity is problem.fm Paul.i am searching 4 my mis right.senatorpaul4u@yahoo.com if u’r pm me.
online dating is good cos with that u find ur tru love,but many men used this to corlet money from wemen and hurt them just like that and u no that is not good.ok in my own side of it i am a man i came to online to look for my own love the person i can realy trust and believe on and i hav look for someone to love me just the way i do cos deep in my heart i need a life time woman to be with.but did u no what i get from those wemen outthere they say day hav being hurt befor so day dont believe in anyone online.so what am trying to say is that pls let us stop doing dose things that is not good and pls i am telling all those that are doing this,what u dont wat people to do to u pls dont do it to others cos we are living in one world and let us make online dating a real one we can believe on each other,and to those scammers out there i tell u this one day ur up is going to full,and remember that u hav a sister too and if someone sud do that to ur own sister how will u feel.
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life is noe always a bed of roses,so be dear friends be careful
hi dear? just want to meet people online and be friend to them.
Be aware that online dating sites are crammed full of scammers and the use poems word for word off this site and pass it off as there own trying to get you to fall for them. Eventually you find they are from Nigeria and just want your money!!!!! It’s sad really. Makes trusting very hard!
yah, those are cool points thanks for lettin them out i’ve learnt one thing from it and have corrected my mistakes. thanks dear
well who know where you right one will come from you only good knows that i want you to know that cars get accident but still people buy car but they drive very careful .i want you all to know that never give up your faith love come to those who believe in it i want you to you have to read that better before give he or her your heart thank you am sangle lady who looking for relationship that will lead to marriage here is my email magrat_ghyr@yahoo.com
hey this is a fucking shit,not every man will take it,bass on your write up here,how can there be effective communication,to be strict it not good ,especially in love afire,
DEAR FRIEND I WANT TO LET U KNOW THAT IM THEN IN LOVE JOINING U
no comment it is the real fact