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Ending a relationship is never easy, even when you’ve truly had enough and you’re ready for freedom. But there are ways to make the deed go as smoothly as possible. If you only remember one thing, let it be this. Break up with others as you would like to be broken up with. Other than that, here are 6 of our best break-up methods.
1. Be honest
Whether he ends up believing you or not, being honest with whomever you’re breaking up with is the best way to go. Tell him why you need to move on and answer any questions he may throw at you as honestly as you can. Think about the times you were dumped with no reason. How did you feel? It probably frustrated you wondering why, when things appeared to be going so well, he decided to end it. Be fair and be honest with him.
2. Pick the right time
Some poor choices include at a party or any other social gathering, in the car or doing a mundane yet domestic task together such as grocery shopping. Chances are, he’ll be caught off guard no matter when you break the bad news, but if you do it in the frozen food section, he may have a much stronger reaction that if you do it at a cafĂ© or in your neighborhood park. There is never going to be a perfect time to break up with someone, but try to have as much control over the time as you can, rather than blurting it out over brunch with friends.
3. Do it in a public place
This minimizes the chances for chaos. If you’re in a restaurant and there are people around, he will be less likely to fly off the handle and cause a scene. If you’re alone and he freaks out, you might be more likely to cave and call the whole thing off. Being in a public place may give you the confidence you need to follow through. Plus, when it’s over you can just walk away, rather than trying to get him to leave you place.
4. Do it in person
Do not be that person who ends a relationship electronically. Breaking up with someone via text, email or even over the phone is totally disrespectful. Even if you can’t wait to be rid of him, at least have the courage to look him in the eye as you dump him.
5. Make sure you are absolutely ready to do it
Not being totally sure of your feelings when you go to end a relationship can mess with your heart and his. If you’re not completely certain that it’s the right thing to do, you’ll confuse him and make him feel like he still has a chance, or worse, you’ll lose him when you still have feelings for him. Be totally ready to cut the ties or risk more heartache than necessary.
6. Take the high road
Chances are if he doesn’t see it coming, he won’t be happy with being dumped. He will curse at you, call you every name in the book, and make you feel like hauling off and punching him in the face. Restrain yourself. You’re leaving anyway, so just take a deep breath, nod politely and then walk away. You won’t gain anything by goading him on or giving him the satisfaction of knowing he upset you.
well to hell with d boy who thinks he is everything. breaking up is not easy but i just have to break up wit a guy who thinks am not real, after all the love i feel 4 him, is hard to say; but i just have to say goodbye to him. I think we are not meant to be together.
I THINK IHAVE TO BCOS HE IS NOT HONESTY.HE ALWAYS LIE TO ME
i have 2 say goodbye 2 d guy that never trust my love 4 him.d guy that don’t trust me for once. that is a good reason for me to leave him.
i have a relationship with a girl, she made it clear to me that she is in a more serious relationship with someone else, i tried to break up with her but she would not let me be. please i need advise on how to end the relationship.
screw my gf,she broke up with me over the phone after four years with her…ass i hope she dies
lekan
I have a relationship of 11years with a girl i thought she love me, and now she as leave with out saying good bye.
walk away
my guy never luved me cos i did all the calling and caring i really hate him for cheating on me at the end
my gf broke up with me without telling me.she told my best friend.since then she always ran away when i see her.and i want her back.i need a gf.i’m a ghanaian
I have decided to break up with my bf but it was just after he went to campus that he kept off from me there was no more communication and i also decided to call it quits
i decidd to broke up with mah bf..because he just leave whitout any word to say…i made my self so stupid because 4 one month i wait for him but he never come back…every night i cry and wait for the phone to ring but no one call…it so hard for me to move on…damn.!!
I just do not know what the hell is wrong with my boyfriend, he tells me he is not sure if he wants the relationship or not, I really just want to move on with my life, because I don’t want to be replaced totally before I get my life on the track, still thinking………………………
Can someone pls advise me? I have a GF I dont really love b4 I left for Europe and I have tried all posibilities best to quit before even before thinking of moving to Europe but the more I am trying to quit the more she is more committed. Now, I dont know what to do and we are very very far away, the only way to communicate her is email and telephone.
I am not having another GF here but whenever I flashed back about I used to feel very bad because I am very sure she will be thinking I am cheating on her.
Pls can I present ” Let us end our relationship” in very polite and best way.
i have gf and almost 8 years we are good but suddenly she told me that she need space and she need to love her self first after a week i decided to break her although i know that i love her very much. after 2 weeks i call her up and saying i want to be with you again but she reject me and accept what she want even my heart is bleeding now she email me and saying that she miss me but i ignore her.pls help me what should i do. i dnt want to be with her if her feelings are not sure with me.
give what they want. in the other hand is not your lost their lost..
i love my guy but i dont pray for him to leave me at all
Some girls are so unscrupulous. I love ma gf, but she has so many unofficial guys. Should i set her free? What do i do?
Continue with her my friend. I’m in the same situation you are and in the end it’s better because the relationship has less demands and stress, once you know you both are free from overcontrolling behaviors.
I want 2 break up wit my gf cos she makes feel bored.bt i usually feel dat am going 2 lose much & be hrt broken later
I want to break up with my Gf,we have being dating for 3years and she dont allow me to show her the feeling that i love her,she keep saying that she dont anything like that, and she would not allow me to confirm if it is true or not,pls can anybody help me on what to do
breaking up is not really easy,but having the courage to do so is what really matters.+2347041205379…anayo
please advice me, does he really love me?.I am married to this guy whom i never had courtship with.It was on the bases that he knew me when we were together in the primary school and he since then developed love for me at a tender age which lasted to the moment.Ater primary school,I went to another state for secondary and university education and we never met at any occasion, but suprisingly, I got information that somebody was looking for me and he doesn’t stay in the country. After much calls from home I decided to let him have my phone number and email address and when he sent his pix i could not recognise him at all. To cut the story short, I allowed him to come home from abroad so i can see him. He requested for my hand in marriage . I was afraid to accept him because i was seeing him like a stranger, but i later agreed after much pleading.Immediately i agreed,he asked for a court wedding to enable me travel with him i refused as that is not the right way to get married. i asked him to see my parents which he did,and never came back to them again , but sent his family to pay dowry.The next thing was for me to travel to meet him. my trip was successful.But when i got to europe ,I notice he has attitude that i cannot understand.Ifelt he was not showing me the love he said he have for me , so i started complaining but no change occured.He doesnot say anything to me even when i cry in his presence,he doesnot tell me he loves me, doesnot kiss me, can’t hug me, except i do it to him even when i complain, and i am a frigile type but now i am pregnant even when i am in pain initially, he doesnot care until one of his brothers told me he is like that and maybe i could change him and that he was a casonova
i have a girl friend who is always comparing other relationship with hers all d time and each time i call her at night,she doesn,t pick up and in d morning she will text me she slept off dat she,s so sorry..and now wen i started avoiding she made a decision 2r her friend ..and i went to her house and meet guys cloth more than 10..so wat should i do…
i need to quick my man ‘cos he doesn’t want to commit. we’ve been together for 3 years and all he could talk about is himself and his dreams, not “us”. He says he loves me but i’m not dumb. if u love somebody you’d want to keep him/her forever.
I am in a relationship with a girl of my age. 27. I get confuse at time because she would not let me know her mind and this give me headache. Please I love this girl but not sure if she feel thesame with me..Please i need advise on what to do. Regards.
I’ve been in a relationship with a woman for close to 10 years now, and each time I suggest breaking up, she say’s “What am I supposed to do, I’m all alone now?” She lost both parents just a few years ago and has a close relationship with my family. I’m unhappy, but how do I get out of this?
Am in love with a guy for 2 years just recently his father told him not to go out with me again bco the religion we are both doing is not the same. But the guy still want to have sex with me am confuse and since then i dont have any feeling for him again and the sex matter is what is on his mind now pls help me
The best thing in life is slowly sliping of my hands, i love seun more like life and cant afford to lose her or i’ld lose my life. But now i see some of the 6 steeps of breaking up in her doings God please i’ld do what ever it takes to make her stay. I love you my dutchess.
it isn’t really easy to break up with someone you had with half of your life even if you’ve already had enough, even if your mind telling you its already time to set yourself free in a stuck relationship i wanna go out of this relationship of mine with my partner but there are many things that keeping me to stay firstly i dont know if i have enuf strength to move on if i can stand for my decisions but i think what makes me feel hurt the most is the fact that he can get easily evercome the fact that were done and that kills me
i got a GF who dose’nt feel my emotions.i do break up with her many times 4 such reasons but still yet nothing change d fact that she always return back to appologise and creat another chance 4 d same silly….. how do i let her go?.
i got a gf, which i really loved but sometimes back, she told me she found someone else just bcos of a silly excuse but later she realize what she as done was not right, she came back to apologize which i accepted but Now shes distance away from me and things have not been the way its used to be and I know something is not right somewhere but aint know what to do about this whole issue,I don’t want what happened before to repeat it self and I hate my girl been fucked around.. please tell me what to do?
I really like this article……
he loves me so much .. but i am nt able to feel the same .. i feel its unfair for him!
I broke up with him because, I love him too much!…and I’m scared he doesnt feel the same.smh!
sacha.. your afraid he can not give back the same love…people has diffent ways of shoeing their feelings to their love ones..
sigh.. people on earth
dis article’s gud
so how do you break up w/ a girl you love? you’re just not IN love w/ her and she’s in love w/ me…now thats some hard shit…breaks my heart to see her cry..i dread it
all of you need to get a life. i just threw mine out the door after being together 5.5 years, cuz he became such a lazy bastard. and am not interested in another man. get some spirituality in your life and stop looking for happiness from a man! find it from within
ppl i need some advice…
before my gf nd i wer together..she tole me that had a bf which we may call it as..”unofficial break-up”..since the guy jsut disappeared for about 3 months nd didnt knw wer is he ryt now.now this time..that gal nd i wer now couple.we coupled for about months.the hardest thing is..she told me that guy came bck nd her feelings did jsut went bck for him.she told me shes getting closer to him nd the guy wnts her bck eventhough he knew that wer now coupled n that gal.she was now confused.nd i jsut feel like i jsut shud let her go…but it wasnt easy..wat shud i do?..i love her so much…
Can anyone here speak proper english? Jeeze.
I have been in a realaltionship for 6 months with a guy that still “hangs” out with his ex wife and ex step daughter. I hate it but i don’t want to be the type that tells him it me or her. I love him and I know that he loves me but why cant he give me the time and commitment I know that I deserve?
i have a bf which i met about 4month ago,he has a nigeria lady which i asked hima nd told me yes is true.he told want to break up with this gal,but she keep calling him so then i told him we should live the country so we can make up since she wont hear from him.he agreed and this guy has change in extend he dont kiss me,hug me,even when i touch him he tell me im using medicine on him.and now he goes and come to me for a couples of days.and this gal is in town now and anytime i see him i tell him we should break up he will beat me up that we wont allow me.and he dont make me go out even my friends cant come to me and he still cheat on me.i have reported to the police yet he keep coming to me.i need your advise pls im worried thank you
Wow, I guess this is the best way to.Our relationship right now is REALLY complicated!&& so many things to explain >//:3
my girl insulted i said iwant to do it.i have left forever.am no farway from he.i think we not compactible.
I want to break up with my BF because he doesn’t trust me. He never calls/texts. I call him, but he never answers the phone. He has baggage from a previous relationship. We had a great relationship, but he has managed to sabotage what we had. I love him, but he hurts me… so I must leave him and find someone who will make me feel special
Am with a relationship with a girl, she cheat and lie to me all the time.One day she set me up with are friend to call me and ask me out she did but she could not suceed.Her close friend now call me tell me everything.I now find not my self, and ask her she denied,we all now met face to face everybody was against her,i now break up with her.But i still love her what will i do to bring her back.
i agree with Divine, guys are like dogs …you could love them with all your heart..but the first thing they will do is to take your love for granted and think that they own you or like without them your life will be over…that is not love my dear and love is for 2 people not one. if your patner thinks they owns you that is not love and you have to get the hell of that relationship before it 2 late for you
PLS I NEED UR ADVICE
I have been dating dis guy 4 almost 2yrs nw, yeah, i m rily crazzzy abt him, bt the problem now is dat we dnt spend much tym together cos of distance.We see each oda twice in 3 months and it’s very annoying. I v tried so many times to break up wt him, bt it’s rily difficult. D 1st tym i attempted doing so, he convinced me 2 continue and dat things were going to work out rite, bt I can’t stand it anymore cos it’s rily killing me inside. Dnt knw wot else to do, I knw he truely loves me and I love him too,bt i m so confused. pls i need ur help!!!
It is not easy to break up with guys,and at the same time i will not do anything that will please others and inconvinient myself….
I think the earlier i quit him the better and faster my FREEDOM be………..
I have loved this girl for the past five years. Till this day, I feel like I was just a rebound. I don’t think she ever loved me as much as I loved her. It is so easy for her to insult me and make me feel bad about myself. She has no idea who I am inside. I have to end this relationship before I lose my mind. I wish I could wake up one day and just not love her anymore.