you are here: By: Brie Gatchalian
Men fascinate me, so I decided to venture out to get some questions answered and to learn more about how they think.
AskMen.com recently revealed the results of their Great Male Survey, which polled more than 50,000 men about their views on relationships, money, and more. And, as it turns out, many men are not what a lot of us expected. Most of them really don’t fit the “bad man” stereotype of unwilling to commit, cheater, cheapskate and irresponsible. Many are what many women would love them to be.
So after looking at the results, picked out five things that really intrigued me. I, then, researched further by asking my male friends if they disagree with the majority of those surveyed and regale me with their explanations.
1. 84% of men look for wife potential in a girlfriend
“It’s definitely true for me,” says Purnell, who’s single and ready to mingle. “There are certain qualities that I’m looking for in a long-term mate. And, if someone catches my attention, I try to see whether or not they meet some of these qualities–that sort of determines how much time and attention I’ll be willing to give them.” Purnell doesn’t want to waste time with the wrong girls, of course, so yes, when he is out there dating, he definitely watches out for those quality traits that may make a girl good enough to be an ideal girlfriend, even wife.
2. 70% of men say they would not cheat, but only 13 percent are entirely satisfied with their sex lives
“That’s a lot! Seventy percent? Really?” challenges Mark, who’s been married for a couple of years to his college sweetheart. “I would think that number would be larger. Not that I would cheat ever, but a lot of my guy friends who are married were probably not interviewed for that survey.” The even more alarming part for Mark was the low number of men who are satisfied with their sex lives. “Men must have really good self-control,” he assumes.
3. 50% are comfortable with their significant other staying touch with an ex
When asked if he’d have a problem with his girlfriends staying in touch with their ex-boyfriends while they’re in relationships, Purnell answers, “as long as it’s respectful.” He believes that if everyone’s being honest and nothing fishy is going on, what’s the big deal?
4. 60% of men would take a male equivalent of the birth control pill if such a drug ever came to market
“I would absolutely–without question–do that,” says Brandon, who’s a self-proclaimed player. “Can you imagine what it’s like to be a guy? Imagine being terrified that there might be a little ‘you’ out there that came out of a night of a random hook-up.” Brandon says he’s not one to be “unsafe” in that way, but mistakes happen. Being able to take a birth control pill, he says, will make him more comfortable with having “fun” with women. “But then again, this could be a dangerous thing for men to have,” he adds.
5. 85% of men believe that they should pay for the majority of dates - at least until a relationship is established
“Ha!” says Mark. “I’ve been with my wife for a long time now, but I know we took turns early on.” Mark and his wife, however, started dating when they were in their teens, so it’s not a fair question to ask–your bank accounts are not developed at that point. When I asked Brandon, he completely agreed. “Yeah, I think for the most part, women expect me to pay for the first few dates, and that’s okay with me,” he explains. “Once the girl becomes my girlfriend, though, she should at least offer, if not take turns with me.” It’s only fair–since women can vote now and all.
Found this interesting!!
I find this very Interesting.
men fascinate me also, and i too ask lots of questions, but i tend to ask the ones that everyone is afraid to talk about. i did enjoy this survey and was kinda surprised by the results.
even though i found this interesting, i’m still disturbed by the amount of men out there who aren’t in this category. i’ve met men who say the things these men do but that is not what they practice at all.
really interesting article! please do more. i suppose this survey depends on what class of men were interviewed. i am shocked by the number of men satisfied with their sex lives, is this really true?? i am not married yet, dating, but this makes me really scared to commit:-(
This is pretty cool. I’ve been telling my female friends for years that guys aren’t that bad but everyone just sort of dismisses it. The sex life thing was kind of a shock. I have usually been happy in that area. Alot of my guy friends complain that their wives/girlfriends would feel slutty if they gave in to some of their dirtier whims, but I would have put the number somewhere higher than 13%. I wonder what the biggest gripe is
wow sooooooooooo cool
Good research i believe you are on the right track.
I found this soo intresting and..,thanks so much for all the poster that post this…,infact i love reading something like this cuz i dont wanna be confuse when getting married with a girl…
good article; I just broke up with a girl after 3 months who thought the guy should pay for all meals, movies ect; nice to see that 85% agree as a start; good stuff. At the age of 50 i think finances should be flexible when the tag of “boyfriend/girlfriend is established,, thoughts????
Rich, I have had several LTRs, during all of which I have always been the one to foot the meal bills most of the time, except will one 8-year relationship, we went dutch with everything (he did pay for everything on our first few dates.)
With my current dates, I go dutch with all of them right from the start.
I just figure . . . I work and make $$$ too . . . I simply feel “uncomfortable” having them pay everything.
As for #2, I think I’ll be the sexually unsatisfied one if I am to marry the guy I am currently dating . . .
These are truly not universal
im a hermaphrodite, so the little penis i do have takes over sometimes and i do pay for dates but sometimes i just feel big vagina and i let the guy pay, after all hes the one in for the surprise
Haha this is my favorite point this guy made. “Once the girl becomes my girlfriend, though, she should at least offer, if not take turns with me.” It’s only fair–since women can vote now and all. That is very true. Damn it!