you are here: by Jessica Padykula
According to Gloria MacDonald, founder of Perfect Partners, a personalized matchmaking service, men are subconsciously looking for three things: Beauty, health and youth. Yes, it sounds superficial and, it is. But MacDonald stresses that they just can’t help it. They’re wired this way. “The more you can do to look beautiful, healthy and youthful, the better your chances are,” she says.
So where does that leave us? Well, even if you aren’t giving Angelina or Cameron a run for their money in the perfect ten department, there are ways to boost your dateability and give him what he’s looking for.
1. Dress for your body type
Just because it looks good in the magazine or in the shop window, doesn’t mean it will suit you and your body. Whether you have a tiny waist and large hips, long torso and short legs or tend to be a bit round all over, there are things you should wear – and things you shouldn’t. The trick here is to go shopping with someone objective, someone who will be honest about what looks good on you. If all else fails, invest in a session with a personal shopper. They will save you from many fashion missteps and teach you what works best for your body type.
2. Highlight your best features (and downplay the less favorable ones)
Make-up isn’t for everyone, but that doesn’t mean you can’t dabble. There are simple ways to shine the spotlight on your best features and minimize the ones you don’t want him to focus on. Head to your local department store and ask them for a makeover. Yes, they will encourage you to buy things, but at the end of it, you’ll know how to show off your high cheekbones, while making the dark circles under your eyes disappear.
3. Take care of your skin
Many of us are not born with flawless skin. But even if dewy and glowing aren’t what stare back at your in the mirror, do what you can with what you have. Wash the make-up off before you hit the pillow, moisturize, wear sunscreen (always), and splurge on a session with an aesthetician so you can learn what products best suit your skin type.
4. Embrace the gym
Whether you’re trying to lose that last ten pounds or you just like that post-workout glow you get after your kickbox class, exercise is your friend, especially if you want to find – and keep a guy. It will keep you in shape, boost your confidence, tone you up in all the right places and just make you feel good.
5. Think positive
If you have a positive attitude, you have a better chance of attracting a date. “What goes on in your head is one of the most important things that can make you more dateable,” MacDonald says. The more positive you feel, the happier you will be and the more pleasant you’ll be to spend time with.
6. Know how to flirt
Flirting is all about creating a rapport and making a connection with someone, ideally, someone whom you’d like to get to know better. Not comfortable flirting? Practice wherever you go — the more you do it, the easier it will become.
7. Be a good listener
No one wants to date someone who makes them feel boring. You don’t have to jump up and down every time he opens his mouth, but pay attention to when he talks. “Be sincerely and genuinely interested in what the other person is saying,” explains MacDonald.
8. Have a hobby and interests
In order to have something to talk about and an identity outside that of your potential significant other, you need a life of your own. This could be a book club, pottery class or weekend mountain bike races. Regardless of the activity, do something for you, that you enjoy so you aren’t so wrapped up in him that you drive him insane.
9. Be a balanced conversationalist
Some people dominate the conversation, some people stay quiet. Others ask so many questions they make you feel like you’re under investigation by the FBI. Being a good conversationalist means having the right balance of talking, asking and listening.
10. Exude confidence
Obviously, confidence doesn’t grow on trees, and unless you count the liquid variety (i.e. vodka), it doesn’t come in a bottle either. But if you feel good about yourself, you will be more attractive to the opposite sex. The more confident you are, the less desperate you will appear. And we all know that desperation does not usually lead to a full dance card.
Thank you!!! I needed sth like this.
I think #6 is worthless! Most guys don’t like a flirt! I know I don’t, especially if I am with her and she is flirting with someone else. Some girls just get in the habit and don’t know when to stop. The girl I just broke up with flirted constantly and claims she didn’t realize she was doing it. You don’t need to flirt to get someone’s attention…#10 is much better, exude confidence.
Most of these qualities I already have but its good learn some things here and there! I liked this article.
Somebody must have read my girl’s secrets. She’s a 10.
tnx., it’s very helpful!!!
i like it alot, really its very useful. thnx
i seriously think this whole article is garbage…these arent really “traits” he wants…these are “ways to attract more guys” kinda things….total garbage
I have personally struggled thru several of these things myself, & relationships suffered because of them. It is character building, not constant flirtation or being egotistic.
i liked it soo much and it has halp me in my relationship pick it up i like it
Men will know characteristics by quirk looks from flirting and lack flirting. Men still want to take a look of flirting, but some women thought a clever way to avoid but men will dump.
SOME OF THESE MAY BE GOOD FOR ONE INDIVIDUAL AND MAY NOT BE GOOD FOR ANOTHER.BUT THEY ARE NICE AND I HAVE LEARN SOMETHING NEW AGAIN.
Hi, very nice post. I have been wonder’n bout this issue,so thanks for posting
#6 isnt worthless. Actually the flirting thing is when you are with your guy. Its not the girl flirting with someone else. My guy definitely like your flirting with him. Doing something for him that he never expect. Like kissing him when you were talking. It that case he will know you were flexible with him at feel at ease. Those are for with relationship. Practice flirting with your guy not practised it with someone else.
#4 Im not sure. Well im a big fat girl and yet my bf wants me to stay that way. But I applied #1. I dress as what i feel i can be sexy eventhough i have a big body size. and I applied #2 that way I can still feel confident and still feel sexy when im with my guy.
to me is okay and can make a relatioship last longer and tight
what you give is really fatastic and i think it will help alot of people in their relationship
If you smile and present a positive attitude with confidence, thats a winning combination. Having a lifestyle that permits you to have interests outside of a relationship is also a fabulous key element. Men do not always notice the most attractive women in a room, but rather will seek out the one that emits confidence and happiness. Its the karma that you exude and a happy, confident woman is a winner! I know as I’ve found my man.
lavda jaisa tips hai………
chutiya bana raha hai sala madarchod
I think most of this is bullshit. a girl shouldnt have to change themselves to attract more guys. they just need to be themselves, that way they can attract guys who like them for the way they are.
It was indeed a good help… Thanx
This is stupid. If your on this sight you know its about LOVE. Love is about personality, you cannot fall in love with someones BODY. therefor- numbers 1-4 are useless.
no, you cannot fall in love with somone’s body, but you have to be attracted to them before you fall in love. a nice body will never make someone love you, but it can’t hurt!
i can’t figure men out these days at all… so… u need to come up with 20 more please. thanks.
Number 10 was the BEST tip in this article. So many people use alcohol, their friends and/or basically everything that replaces who they REALLy are as a way to attract others. And yet when things don’t work out, we always think back to the details throughout the relationship that went wrong. No, no most of the time, just looking back to how you both approached eachother in the beginning often tells the story of how the relationship/friendship will play out in the long/short run. No, don’t pretend to have confidence. Find that “inner” confidence in yourself that comes naturally, not from a bottle or from your over the top clothes, flirting and/or friends doing all the work for you. And if you can’t seem to find that natural confidence in yourself, you’d be better off stepping off the market until you figure out what it is that’s blocking this natural trait (confidence). Once you’ve identified why you can’t naturally exhibit confidence, you can then make the necessary changes & won’t have to try too hard and/or fake having it.
guyz of diz dayz mostly fall in love with de type of body thnkz #1-#10 iz really good
im in love with some1 but hes fit n im ugly so tis article is shit cus it dnt work
this really helped me.
thank you
I agree to Steve…have heard too that guys do not prefer flirts for the sake of finding their love…other comments are good. Thanks!.
Just be yourself,build up ur self-confidence,have a good character,be positive minded&no guy/lady will resist u.
I think #6 is worthless! Most guys don’t like a flirt! I know I don’t, especially if I am with her and she is flirting with someone else. Some girls just get in the habit and don’t know when to stop. The girl I just broke up with flirted constantly and claims she didn’t realize she was doing it. You don’t need to flirt to get someone’s attention…#10 is much better, exude confidence.
instead of always telling us girls how to attract men, that I can do on my own thank you, how about telling men how to attract and actually KEEP us women? Like being honest and faithful being the top 2. making her feel like she is the most important thing in your world cuz well if you really loved her she would be and making her feel like she is always the most gorgous woman in the world no matter what she looks like and how about not basing everything on looks? all that physical beauty is going to fade away eventually in time but personality remains forever. and guys who only want girls like this will never keep a girlfriend for long and it only makes girls like myself have less confidence in themselfs than what they did before and don’t think my guy would be very happy about that considering he worked so hard to build it up in me to begin with. if i were to rate this article i’d give it 4 thumbs down.
i so much needed this. THANK YOU
ha! to all the girls have a different personality to please for the guy choose a perfect partner to you thanks to all love you……………
I’ve just read this and, in my opinion, it’s a load of crap! I don’t do/haven’t done any of these things, but my boyfriend still loves me. I’m not even very pretty; I have frizzy hair, LOTS of spots and quite fat. This stuff means that most guys either make fun of me or ignore me completely. My boyfriend, however, didn’t judge me by my looks, rather by my personality. Therefore I believe that if you have a kind personality and a good attitude you are more likely to find a worthwile guy than if you focus completely on what you look like.
U are right.keep it up
charles
this is such an intresting write up for everybody to read inother to knowe how to handle each other so as to live and make a good relationship.that number six shoud be out of it.in any relationship there must be faitfulness.
why must there something like that no 6?
I think this article was interesting, but it seems to say that if you want a man, you need to be perfect. Sorry, no such thing, and if there is a man out there who is perfect, then he can ask for perfection, but otherwise, he needs to get realistic.
Generally these tips are what guys are looking for, however, they are some guidelines. In the end, each individual is different and unique.
lov is mad
any 1 to chat wit
love is the most important thing so always try to love
The five items I mention illustrate a confident woman who is caring, appreciative, sensitive and giving and has respect for herself. Notice I didn’t mention cup size or fave sexual positions or role playing preferences. That’s a whole other article people.
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